How does it feel when you say you say yes to that request you really want to say no to? Have you ever taken a moment to think about what it is you are actually agreeing to? Or has it become an automatic habit?
We live in a fast-paced world. Ordinarily our lives are full to the brim with activity and plans, we flit from one task to the next suddenly finding ourselves at the end of another week, or month, or year! The COVID-19 pandemic made the entire world slow down, and for most people there was a moment to pause and think about what we are saying yes to. Why do we fill our time so completely? At last we have been given the space to think about how always being obliged to saying yes makes us feel, and what value is there to saying no?
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”
Each individuals’ boundaries will look as different as our own unique finger print. Here's some simple steps to help set yours:
Don't expect too much of yourself at first - it takes some practice! Especially if we like to please others and not cause upset, or you think you may be judged for saying no.
It can take some time for us to find the courage to actually say no. But, if you start little and build up you can begin to break the yes habit and gain more confidence.
Remember to take care of your needs, as adults life presents us with more responsibilties and it's easy to become that person who helps everyone out before taking the time we need for ourselves. Saying yes isn't all bad - it's good for our wellbeing to give to and connect with others. Just check with yourself first before you automatically say yes - because it's ok to say no!